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"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." - William James
I struggle with this one a little bit. Not because I do not agree, but rather because I can see myself having to explain it often. So many people are afraid to admit that we like to be appreciated. We do not want to be misunderstood.
You see, it is not about Ego. Nor is it about needing to be "Employee of the Month." Simply, it is the need to know we matter. To know we make a difference.
Have you ever looked at one of those pictures - puzzle pictures - and you are supposed to look at one spot and this vision appears of the picture in the picture? Is that not how some of us feel? Like we are this lost person in a hidden picture, waiting to be found. Hoping someone, or everyone, takes the time to look so much closer. To reward us with a little focus?
We are one person in so many, but we want to know that we make a picture.
We could easily go so deep into this, with regard to relationships, or our work, or even more importantly, with our goals and dreams.
The world would be such a better place if only we were understood, and 'they' could see us for all we have to give. Has that desire not crossed your mind?
Hey.
Hey, I have an idea.
No really, I might be the first one to think this.
Do you think, just maybe... it could start with You?
We touched it before. On many occasions. We discussed how important it is to Believe in ourselves. We discussed that if we did it - Believe in us - that sooner or later others would do it to. If we change our state, it would carry on around us. If we focus on our successes and not our failures ... you see the pattern. It surrounds us. It starts with You, and it carries over all on it's own.
Is it really that different of a concept?
Stand on a street corner and look up. Stay there. Stay looking up. How long before others around you begin ... to look up?
Okay, I dare you. Do it. Do that moment experiment, and when you are satisfied with a number of people that are looking up, Walk away. Walk with confidence. You are someone and you have somewhere important to be. Eye contact and then straight forward. How long before you notice people's movements. They begin to look at you. Strong and moving. Eyes fixed. You are someone. Maybe they move for you, but they all look. They "have" to.
Firm stride.
Eyes fixed on something far more than this moment.
Impressions change. Right in front of your eyes.
Trust me. And so it works with overall appreciation as well.
Begin to show appreciation of yourself. Show it in your acceptance of your accomplishments. Show it in your acknowledgement of your passions and your strengths. Show it in how you care for you. Show it in your smile, and your enjoyment of your life. Show it in how you treat others.
When you practice getting to know the feeling, and understanding the feeling of appreciating your unique and limitless self - you will begin to find that your appreciation is contagious. And natural.
I used to fear that people would judge me as conceited if I brought attention to myself or my accomplishments. I worry too damn much. I sold moments of a great life on caring what someone might incorrectly assume about me. Afraid to appreciate that I desired genuinely to make a difference and that people felt I did.
Repeat after me ....
I worked hard to find myself.
I worked hard to become who I am.
I have dreams and goals to compliment my work and effort to get to this point.
I appreciate what I have accomplished.
Get to know me.
I did.
And it has become a wicked friendship.
There is my next bold T-Shirt.
Good morning - to you, and everything you appreciate about you.
Time you visited the list. As you do, notice how many others begin to read over your shoulder.
Pierre Couturier – June 6, 2008
Author – “All She Is…”
LPU Representative
Success is Yours – With Prosperity Designers Inc. and Wealth Creators Inc.
Personal Development and Business Opportunity 1-888-719-5819
Thursday, June 5, 2008
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Awaken Your Day - June 5, 2008
A little something from a little book, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff".
Become Aware of Your Moods and Don't Allow Yourself to Be Fooled by the Low Ones
Your own moods can be extremely deceptive. They can, and probably do, trick you into believing your life is far worse than it really is. When you're in a good mood, life looks great. You have perspective, common sense, and wisdom. In good moods, things don't feel so hard, problems seem less formidable and easier to solve. When you're in a good mood, relationships seem to flow and communication is easy. If you are criticized, you take it in stride.
On the contrary, when you're in a bad mood, life looks unbearably serious and difficult. You have very little perspective. you take things personally and often misinterpret those around you, as you imput malignant motives into their actions.
Here's the catch: People don't realize their moods are always on the run. They think instead that their lives have suddenly become worse in the past day, or even the last hour. So, someone who is in a good mood in the morning might love his wife, his job, and his car. He is probably optimistic about his future and feels grateful about his past. But by late aftenoon, if his mood is bad, he claims he hates his job, thinks of his wife as a nuisance, thinks his car is a junker, and believes he's going nowhere in his career. If you ask him about his childhood while he's in a low mood, he'll probably tell you it was extremely difficult. He will probably blame his parents for his current plight.
Such quick and drastic contrasts may seem absurd, even funny --- but we're all like that. In low moods we lose our perspective and everything seems urgent. We completely forget that when we are in a good mood, everything seems so much better. We experience the identical circumstances -- who we are married to, where we work, the car we drive, our potential, our childhood --- entirely differently, depending on our mood! When we are low, rather than blaming our mood as would be appropriate, we instead tend to feel that our whole life is wrong. It's almost as if we actually believe that our lives have fallen apart in the past hour or two.
The truth is, life is almost never as bad as it seems when you're in a low mood. Rather than staying stuck in a bad temper, convinced you are seeing life realistically, you can learn to question your judgment. Remind yourself, "Of course I'm feeling defensive ( or angry, frustrated, stressed, depressed); I'm in a bad mood. I always feel negative when I'm low."
When you're in an ill mood, learn to pass it off as simply that: an unavoidable human condition that will pass with time, if you leave it alone. A low mood is not the time to analyze your life. To do so is emotional suicide. If you have a legitimate problem, it will still be there when your state of mind improves. The trick is to be grateful for our good moods and graceful in our low moods -- not taking them too seriously. The next time you feel low, for whatever reason , remind yourself, "This too shall pass." It will.
Morning finds you. You should have taken 10 good breaths and asked yourself, "What is my state?"
Right here is where we have the power to capture our day. Even in the face of a bad mood. If we identify it here, for the reasons we hold, we can harness them so that if something should come along later in our day that is not so agreeable, it does not Compound a bad mood. That moment can stand on it's own and we can tackle that one with whatever ammunition we carry in our Awareness bag.
But the morning - should we wake up with a bad attitude or find it while we go thru our morning start up ... this one can be our first success of the day. Our first choice to stay within our Power.
Now, after reading all that, you can't possibly remember what you may have been annoyed about.
Except being late... oops.
Morning.
Pierre Couturier
Success is Yours
1-888-719-5819
Become Aware of Your Moods and Don't Allow Yourself to Be Fooled by the Low Ones
Your own moods can be extremely deceptive. They can, and probably do, trick you into believing your life is far worse than it really is. When you're in a good mood, life looks great. You have perspective, common sense, and wisdom. In good moods, things don't feel so hard, problems seem less formidable and easier to solve. When you're in a good mood, relationships seem to flow and communication is easy. If you are criticized, you take it in stride.
On the contrary, when you're in a bad mood, life looks unbearably serious and difficult. You have very little perspective. you take things personally and often misinterpret those around you, as you imput malignant motives into their actions.
Here's the catch: People don't realize their moods are always on the run. They think instead that their lives have suddenly become worse in the past day, or even the last hour. So, someone who is in a good mood in the morning might love his wife, his job, and his car. He is probably optimistic about his future and feels grateful about his past. But by late aftenoon, if his mood is bad, he claims he hates his job, thinks of his wife as a nuisance, thinks his car is a junker, and believes he's going nowhere in his career. If you ask him about his childhood while he's in a low mood, he'll probably tell you it was extremely difficult. He will probably blame his parents for his current plight.
Such quick and drastic contrasts may seem absurd, even funny --- but we're all like that. In low moods we lose our perspective and everything seems urgent. We completely forget that when we are in a good mood, everything seems so much better. We experience the identical circumstances -- who we are married to, where we work, the car we drive, our potential, our childhood --- entirely differently, depending on our mood! When we are low, rather than blaming our mood as would be appropriate, we instead tend to feel that our whole life is wrong. It's almost as if we actually believe that our lives have fallen apart in the past hour or two.
The truth is, life is almost never as bad as it seems when you're in a low mood. Rather than staying stuck in a bad temper, convinced you are seeing life realistically, you can learn to question your judgment. Remind yourself, "Of course I'm feeling defensive ( or angry, frustrated, stressed, depressed); I'm in a bad mood. I always feel negative when I'm low."
When you're in an ill mood, learn to pass it off as simply that: an unavoidable human condition that will pass with time, if you leave it alone. A low mood is not the time to analyze your life. To do so is emotional suicide. If you have a legitimate problem, it will still be there when your state of mind improves. The trick is to be grateful for our good moods and graceful in our low moods -- not taking them too seriously. The next time you feel low, for whatever reason , remind yourself, "This too shall pass." It will.
Morning finds you. You should have taken 10 good breaths and asked yourself, "What is my state?"
Right here is where we have the power to capture our day. Even in the face of a bad mood. If we identify it here, for the reasons we hold, we can harness them so that if something should come along later in our day that is not so agreeable, it does not Compound a bad mood. That moment can stand on it's own and we can tackle that one with whatever ammunition we carry in our Awareness bag.
But the morning - should we wake up with a bad attitude or find it while we go thru our morning start up ... this one can be our first success of the day. Our first choice to stay within our Power.
Now, after reading all that, you can't possibly remember what you may have been annoyed about.
Except being late... oops.
Morning.
Pierre Couturier
Success is Yours
1-888-719-5819
Awaken Your Day - June 4, 2008
Just because I know I need to take more time to just relax and laugh a bit, have a good day - and take it easy. I am sure that too many of us do not put enough personal time on our agenda.
"I'm sorry, if you were right, I'd agree with you." - Robin Williams
"Adults are always asking little kids what they want to be when they grow up because they are looking for ideas." - Paula Poundstone
"The road to success is always under construction." - Lily Tomlin
"I think it's wrong that only one company makes the game Monopoly." - Steven Wright
"Look to the future, because that is where you will spend the rest of your life." - George Burns
Good morning.
Pierre Couturier - June 4, 2008
Author - "All She Is..."
LPU Representative
Success is Yours - With Prosperity Designers Inc. and Wealth Creators Inc.
Personal Development and Business Opportunity 1-888-719-5819
"I'm sorry, if you were right, I'd agree with you." - Robin Williams
"Adults are always asking little kids what they want to be when they grow up because they are looking for ideas." - Paula Poundstone
"The road to success is always under construction." - Lily Tomlin
"I think it's wrong that only one company makes the game Monopoly." - Steven Wright
"Look to the future, because that is where you will spend the rest of your life." - George Burns
Good morning.
Pierre Couturier - June 4, 2008
Author - "All She Is..."
LPU Representative
Success is Yours - With Prosperity Designers Inc. and Wealth Creators Inc.
Personal Development and Business Opportunity 1-888-719-5819
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Awaken Your Day - June 3, 2008
At times you will undoubtedly notice a pattern in our morning comments. A similarity in some of the chosen messages.
I believe that many of the good philosophies come in a variety of wrappers. Seeing as how we do not all learn the same, and more so we are not all at the same place in our lives or level of need ... I believe you can hear the same idea many times before one day it just connects with you at the right time ... and the right place.
So I hope you can see that I try to connect with the an idea from a few different angles, and it is not that I have no imagination - or that I woke up this morning with the same idea and forgot about yesterday.
So - with all of that in mind - I bid you a good morning, and ...
"Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant."
- Robert Louis Stevenson, Essayist, Poet and Novelist
Good planting.
Pierre Couturier – June 3, 2008
Author – “All She Is…”
LPU Representative
Success is Yours – With Prosperity Designers Inc. and Wealth Creators Inc.
Personal Development and Business Opportunity 1-888-719-5819
I believe that many of the good philosophies come in a variety of wrappers. Seeing as how we do not all learn the same, and more so we are not all at the same place in our lives or level of need ... I believe you can hear the same idea many times before one day it just connects with you at the right time ... and the right place.
So I hope you can see that I try to connect with the an idea from a few different angles, and it is not that I have no imagination - or that I woke up this morning with the same idea and forgot about yesterday.
So - with all of that in mind - I bid you a good morning, and ...
"Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant."
- Robert Louis Stevenson, Essayist, Poet and Novelist
Good planting.
Pierre Couturier – June 3, 2008
Author – “All She Is…”
LPU Representative
Success is Yours – With Prosperity Designers Inc. and Wealth Creators Inc.
Personal Development and Business Opportunity 1-888-719-5819
Monday, June 2, 2008
Awaken Your Day - June 2, 2008
What did you do with your weekend?
I sit here this morning and I feel my momentum building. You see, I had a good weekend. And that is how I am going to lead into my week. I have that ability, because I have that choice. So do you.
The “freedom” of the weekend may be over by way of the calendar, but my achievements are rolling over and on.
I did not win the lottery. I did not get to the lake. I was not actually even feeling well all weekend. But I did attain some success that will help me run right thru this imaginary Monday barrier. In fact, if I let it, my weekend feelings of success will have me crossing off ten things on Monday’s “To Do” list before many people will be out of the fog of the alarm clock.
What is my definition of success this morning? Well, not much in the big picture, but when we calculate the peace of mind it gives me – it comes down to this.
I had a nagging repair on my car taken care of. In that I was reminded about the luxury I have in my good friend John being a trustworthy man and mechanic. I had no worries.
It took awhile but my taxes are all sent in. Did some document chasing, but the burden is off of my shoulders now. I feel much lighter in the tension filled ‘unfinished task department’.
Sorted some things in the basement so now I can actually move around down there and see floor. And now I can get at the rest of the mess at a later time. One thought – “Garage Sale”. Yes, that means we got the garage tidy as well.
Visited some friends for a bar b que get together. No biggy for an achievement list you say? Well, this was good because I was not watching the clock. I sat and visited and RELAXED without the urgent need to do anything else. The value from that is growing on me. The value of that quality time is one of my dreams and motivation to get my business moving for this family and my business partner and friends.
It is amazing how much better things feel when you are relaxed. Some of you know the point I am getting at. Those that stopped reading this 3 paragraphs up, you will know some time.
Clutter. As many of you have heard me say, clutter is my biggest obstacle. My bad habit. My nemesis. The part of my physical environment that distracts me from million dollar ideas. This weekend saw us succeed in overcoming some of this hurdle to the tune of 4 bags of recycling.
Paper.
Lists.
Old things I have been promising myself I was going to read.
Magazines from the year… never mind.
Picture this, 4 full bags of Useless out of my life. Like those pictures you see on television of what a pound of fat really looks like. 4 bags off my mind and not tripping me on my path to Personal Prosperity.
I look at my bookcase in my office and I feel less burdened. I feel lighter. My thoughts a whole lot more clear.
This feeling was beneficial when I sat down with my business partner to work on my online store. Oops…did I say that? Shhh…part of the announcement coming soon.
My longwinded point being, you may not have accomplished everything you laid out for yourself these last few days. Some of us put a lot of pressure on to get too much done. Rather than focus on what you didn’t do, we need to train ourselves to ride higher on the back of what did get accomplished and how that list can give us good momentum for the days to come.
So should you get asked that wonderful question this morning, “What did you do this weekend?”, you can feel good when you think about it – and you can comment positively about what you did do, and not sound drained or defeated by those things you can get to later.
Good morning.
Pierre Couturier – June 2, 2008
Author – “All She Is…”
LPU Representative
Success is Yours – With Prosperity Designers Inc. and Wealth Creators Inc.
Personal Development and Business Opportunity 1-888-719-5819
I sit here this morning and I feel my momentum building. You see, I had a good weekend. And that is how I am going to lead into my week. I have that ability, because I have that choice. So do you.
The “freedom” of the weekend may be over by way of the calendar, but my achievements are rolling over and on.
I did not win the lottery. I did not get to the lake. I was not actually even feeling well all weekend. But I did attain some success that will help me run right thru this imaginary Monday barrier. In fact, if I let it, my weekend feelings of success will have me crossing off ten things on Monday’s “To Do” list before many people will be out of the fog of the alarm clock.
What is my definition of success this morning? Well, not much in the big picture, but when we calculate the peace of mind it gives me – it comes down to this.
I had a nagging repair on my car taken care of. In that I was reminded about the luxury I have in my good friend John being a trustworthy man and mechanic. I had no worries.
It took awhile but my taxes are all sent in. Did some document chasing, but the burden is off of my shoulders now. I feel much lighter in the tension filled ‘unfinished task department’.
Sorted some things in the basement so now I can actually move around down there and see floor. And now I can get at the rest of the mess at a later time. One thought – “Garage Sale”. Yes, that means we got the garage tidy as well.
Visited some friends for a bar b que get together. No biggy for an achievement list you say? Well, this was good because I was not watching the clock. I sat and visited and RELAXED without the urgent need to do anything else. The value from that is growing on me. The value of that quality time is one of my dreams and motivation to get my business moving for this family and my business partner and friends.
It is amazing how much better things feel when you are relaxed. Some of you know the point I am getting at. Those that stopped reading this 3 paragraphs up, you will know some time.
Clutter. As many of you have heard me say, clutter is my biggest obstacle. My bad habit. My nemesis. The part of my physical environment that distracts me from million dollar ideas. This weekend saw us succeed in overcoming some of this hurdle to the tune of 4 bags of recycling.
Paper.
Lists.
Old things I have been promising myself I was going to read.
Magazines from the year… never mind.
Picture this, 4 full bags of Useless out of my life. Like those pictures you see on television of what a pound of fat really looks like. 4 bags off my mind and not tripping me on my path to Personal Prosperity.
I look at my bookcase in my office and I feel less burdened. I feel lighter. My thoughts a whole lot more clear.
This feeling was beneficial when I sat down with my business partner to work on my online store. Oops…did I say that? Shhh…part of the announcement coming soon.
My longwinded point being, you may not have accomplished everything you laid out for yourself these last few days. Some of us put a lot of pressure on to get too much done. Rather than focus on what you didn’t do, we need to train ourselves to ride higher on the back of what did get accomplished and how that list can give us good momentum for the days to come.
So should you get asked that wonderful question this morning, “What did you do this weekend?”, you can feel good when you think about it – and you can comment positively about what you did do, and not sound drained or defeated by those things you can get to later.
Good morning.
Pierre Couturier – June 2, 2008
Author – “All She Is…”
LPU Representative
Success is Yours – With Prosperity Designers Inc. and Wealth Creators Inc.
Personal Development and Business Opportunity 1-888-719-5819
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